“A baby fills a place in your heart that you never knew was empty…”
My heartstring, Jahzara, is now three months old.
To be honest, it feels much longer than three months, I don’t know if that’s because I have an almost two year old son to run around after as well, but three months has gone past so quickly.
All in all, I have not had much stress or difficulty with her. She is actually as smooth as 90’s R&B, I mean she does have her days but to be fair she is easily contented. Every morning, I wake up to a beautiful toothless smile even during the midst of her moaning for food, as soon as she sees me she will smile and kick her legs in excitement. I’d like to think it’s due to the sight of me but the more I write and if she’s anything like her big brother, she probably does it because she knows food is on it’s way… hmmmm.
If there is anything I have struggled with during this time, I would say breastfeeding. Xion was formula fed, so this was all a brand new experience for me. I will cover this in more detail one day, but it was complete and utter discomfort and pain for at least 6 weeks maybe a tad more. Now, its glorious and I love it. I am so happy to say that I have exclusively breastfed Jahzara from day one and stuck it out. I really can relate to the women who choose to no longer breastfeed and use formula. Breastfeeding can come so simple to some and not so straightforward to others.
During this period, I have also experienced at least two periods of cluster feeding, which is when baby’s feeds are much closer together compared to the usual 1.5-3 hours interval. This is still quite often with Jahzara to this day, but not was demanding as the first 6-8 weeks. She has also had three growth spurts during the past three months. A growth spurt is very much like cluster feeding………. X 10000000.
Growth Spurt at 2-4 weeks – This wasn’t too bad, what made it horrid was the fact that we were both getting used to breastfeeding and the growth spurt did not help. I assumed that my milk supply wasn’t good enough, if I didn’t speak with my health visitor, who explained growth spurts to me and how regular they would occur in the first few months, I would have started her on the Aptimel at three weeks old.
Growth Spurt at 6-8 weeks – This growth spurt by far was the worse. I am so happy that Xion was on holiday at the time because I have no idea how I would have coped. I really just had to stay at home and be available at her beck and call for about 4 days, it was actually crazy and again I did doubt my milk supply but reading mummy articles and speaking to other mums encouraged me and I became aware that it is not just myself which is experiencing this issue during the first few weeks of breastfeeding. I continued to stick it out.
Growth Spurt at 10-12 weeks – Her most recent growth spurt was literally last week. It was not as bad as the last one but I think it was more inconvenient because last week was super busy. I couldn’t pump even if I wanted to, but thankfully I had a few bottles stored in the freezer ready for the busy weekend we had just experienced. But things are back to normal now and she is literally feeding for about 15-20 minutes and I won’t hear from her for about 2-3 hours.
We will be taking her for her second round of immunizations next week Tuesday. I literally hate it. I hate seeing the needle forced into her thigh. I hate the high pitch scream. But once it’s over and done with she seems OK for the time being. Unfortunately, after the last one there was a temperature followed by some diarrhea and a lot of spitting up during and after feeds. Luckily, it didn’t last for more than 5 days, it is recommended by the doctor to go to A&E if the symptoms persist over that time. The symptoms did last at least 3-4 days which was horrid and long enough compared to Xion who had hardly any symptoms apart from a temperature.
After her third round of immunizations, which are due at 4 months, I will not be getting any more (the MMR at age 1). I shall keep my reasons to myself but I have done my own research into immunizations and I am only having the first ones done because of the “what if” factor in my mind, but any top ups I am not interested.
When I tell you this baby has slept through the night from day one. The midwives and health visitors used to tell me to wake her in the night for a feed, which I did and she fed… very lazily but she fed. After a while, I let her sleep. I mean imagine someone waking you up at 3 a.m saying, “Hey, would you like a piece of chicken?” I’m very sure you’d gladly tell that person where to go….. mmm then again knowing me I’d kindly ask them to store it in a safe place for me to consume a little later. But really, I know she is a baby so this is completely different but after I got into the swing of mothering a new born again, I made the conscious decision to be available when she shows hunger cues, this is to ensure that she eats efficiently in the day so if she wants to sleep through the night, I know she has been well fed. But that’s me, I mean who wouldn’t want their baby to sleep through the night. She usually goes to bed between 10 p.m and 11 p.m. where she will have her last feed and then she will wake up for food between 5 a.m and 6 a.m. So at the moment, it is quite nice.
Things that JahJah loves:
- She loves when I sing to her.. she’s my number 1 fan
- She loves smiling at people
- She loves hitting and kicking hanging toys, so I don’t have to worry about her motor skills at all
- She’s definitely a chatty patty because she will sit and babble with me for a few minutes at a time
I plan to read more with Jahzara and play her more music in order to develop her intellectual growth.
So yes, that is the update on the past three months with a new born. She is a bundle of joy….. at the moment, lol.
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Thanks for reading…
Until next time…